Wednesday, 18 November 2015

When you just feel like you can't cope

Sometimes, I just get this overwhelming feeling that I can't cope any more. The smallest task becomes the hugest challenge - checking my emails feels impossible; washing my hair seems pointless; getting out of bed seems meaningless. For days I can feel like I'm about to break down at being asked to complete the smallest of tasks. Sometimes it even feels like I'm going a bit mad.

But then I have to step back and think - I am coping, and I am being too hard on myself. I am managing to keep up with the workload of my degree, whilst socialising and attending blogging events. I do (eventually) check my emails and wash my hair.

I guess today has been one of those days where I just feel like I can't cope. Every tiny task made me want to curl up in a ball and cry. So I thought I would share with you a few ways I help myself on days like this.

1) Triage
Just like nurses and doctors do in A&E, triage. The most urgent tasks should be carried out today, in your own time, and the rest can be left until you feel a little more able to complete them.

2) Take each moment as it comes
I often find it difficult to get up in the mornings, so I try and take each task as they come. I will get out of bed and try to not think about what the day ahead holds. Then I will get dressed, and only think about getting dressed. Take each moment as it comes, and try not to think too far ahead as this can get overwhelming.

3) Reward yourself
If you complete a task, no matter how small, reward yourself. Watch an episode of your favourite series or have a break with a book and some chocolate. And on the same lines - don't punish yourself if you don't complete something that you wanted to do today. Accept that you're not in the best mindset and let yourself recover.

4) Say 'no'
Sometimes you just need to turn someone down. Having too many things to do can become so overwhelming that you are not productive at all, so turn something down if you can. I have had a lot on my plate with societies, uni work and socialising, so tonight I chose to have the evening to myself and spend it relaxing - with nothing to do except sit in bed and watch Netflix.

I hope these tips help a little bit; they have definitely helped me today. They may seem straightforward but they are simple things that a lot of people forget to do.

Don't stress yourself out - your health and happiness are the two most important things you own.
There is only one success: to be able to spend your life in your own way.


  1. I agree with you on all of the points, especially taking each task as it comes. I will sometimes sit in bed and think I cant do this today, but I just get up and have a wash. Then get dressed. Then get the bus. When I am at work I find I am often too busy to think about it but sometimes the slightest thing to happen at work gets me really upset. You can do this Hannah :)

  2. This is such a great post! Everyone needs a little step back and positive boost to get them back up again, all takes time
    Charlotte x